Singing: A Family Affair!

I know that several countries have a dedicated national holiday to celebrate families, but we don't all observe it at the same time. In Ontario, we mark Family Day on the third Monday of February—a much-needed pause in our winter calendar. But in truth, every day is the perfect day to honour and show our appreciation toward the people who raised us, grew up beside us, or helped shape who we are—parents, grandparents, siblings, and yes, cousins, aunts, uncles, and chosen family too.

Singing with your family is a great bonding experience.

And what better way to celebrate than with music?

Although we all grow up with different needs, values, and life goals, a common denominator in many families is a shared love of music. As Anthony Brandt beautifully said, “Other things may change us, but we start and end with the family.”

So how does this apply to singing?

Singing With Family: A Bond Like No Other

Music in general—and singing in particular—is an extremely powerful bonding experience. From the moment we are born, we are surrounded by the rhythms and melodies of life: a mother's lullaby, a father's off-key humming while making breakfast, the joyful chaos of a singalong in the car, or the emotional connection of a song that always makes you think of someone dear.

Do you sing with your family?

If you’re lucky, maybe you’ve experienced the joy of making music with someone you love. Maybe your dad plays guitar while your siblings sing harmony. Maybe you and your kids make up silly songs on the way to school. Maybe your grandmother hums old tunes while baking bread. These moments are precious, and they deserve to be celebrated.

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The Legacy of Singing in My Own Family

In my own family, singing has always played a subtle but significant role. My maternal grandmother loved to sing. She was the first to truly spark my passion for it. She would tell me stories of how she and her siblings would gather around the piano every night, singing, playing, and dancing together. That was before the days of television, smartphones, and internet—when entertainment was homegrown, and music was the lifeblood of a household.

I had an aunt who was a cabaret singer in Montreal in the 60s and 70s. I still remember how glamorously cool that seemed to me growing up. I was in awe of her confidence, her stage presence, and the way she carried herself. Another uncle played in a band and would rehearse in the basement while babysitting us. My sister and I weren’t allowed downstairs during rehearsals, but we’d press our ears to the floorboards just to catch a glimpse of the magic. That curiosity never left me.

As for my parents, I didn’t know they had musical sides until I was much older. They had both tried learning guitar in their youth but didn’t stick with it. Later, they saw something in us—especially after my sister expressed an interest in the violin—and enrolled us both in music lessons.

It was a beautiful surprise to witness my father, years later, teach himself how to play djembe drums. Eventually, he even returned to guitar, this time with more patience and intention. He reminds me that you’re never too old to pick up something new or rediscover an old love. That kind of perseverance inspires me deeply.

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My mom, though she never took up an instrument again, has always been our number one fan. Every single concert, every recital, every show—we could count on her presence. Her unwavering support made a world of difference, and for that, I am endlessly grateful.

Even now, my niece dabbles with the ukulele and accordion, but it’s her passion for traditional folk dancing that is leading her toward a career in stage production. Music clearly runs in our blood—it just shows up in different forms.

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Singing as a Multigenerational Gift

One of the most touching and under-celebrated experiences is singing with or to the elderly. Music, especially singing, has incredible emotional and behavioral benefits for older adults. It can awaken long-buried memories, ease anxiety, spark joy, and even improve cognitive function. For those with dementia or Alzheimer's, music can be a lifeline to connection when words fail.

I encourage everyone with aging parents or grandparents to sing to them—whether it’s an old song they used to hum in the kitchen or a lullaby they once sang to you. You'll be amazed at the reaction. Sometimes, a few simple notes can bring tears, laughter, or a smile that says, “I remember.”

My Personal Journey From Singing at Home to the Stage

Growing up, I loved singing with my guitar, but I didn’t start taking formal singing lessons until college. That’s when everything changed. I quickly discovered that while I was an okay guitar player, my voice was where my true talent lay. I made the switch to vocal performance and never looked back.

Eventually, I earned my B.A. in Fine Arts with a concentration in music performance, focusing on classical singing. That foundation gave me the technical skills and the artistic confidence to continue growing as a performer and vocal coach.

Today, I carry those family influences into my work. Whether I’m coaching a beginner or mentoring an experienced singer, I’m always thinking about the emotional connections that got us started in the first place—and the ones we can nurture through song.

Your Voice is a Family Treasure

Over the years, I’ve seen many of my clients and members of my Facebook group enjoy similar experiences—singing with their children, partners, or sometimes even their parents. It’s heartwarming and inspiring to witness that shared love of music blossom into something beautiful and lasting.

Singing helps us connect and honour the special relationship that only unconditional love—and the blessing of family—can bring. It’s not just about music. It’s about creating memories, expressing gratitude, healing wounds, and celebrating life together.

Questions to Ask Yourself on Family Day

Take a moment to reflect:

• Are you confident enough to sing in front of your family?

• Does your family support your singing journey?

• Are you looking to help your child or a loved one unleash their singing potential?

• Are you in a band with family members?

• Did someone in your family pass down a love of music to you?

And if your answers stir up sadness or unresolved pain, please know this: singing can be a powerful form of healing.

For Those With a Difficult Past: Singing Can Heal

Not everyone had a picture-perfect childhood. For some, the word “family” brings up pain, longing, or complicated feelings. If that’s you, please know that your story matters too.

Music can be a safe space for you to process those emotions. Singing can help soothe old wounds, calm anxiety, and bring clarity. It’s one of the most therapeutic, soul-nourishing things you can do. You don’t have to sing for anyone else—just for yourself. Your voice is yours to reclaim.

Imagine What’s Possible When You Invest in Your Voice

If you're passionate about singing but haven’t taken that leap yet, now is a perfect time to explore how music can transform not only your skills but your life. Just imagine what would happen if you committed to developing your voice:

• 🎤 Graduating from singing in front of your family to performing for a real audience.

• 🎧 Absolutely loving how your voice sounds in recordings.

• 🌍 Releasing your original music on Spotify and other platforms.

• 💔 Releasing trapped emotions through singing.

• 📹 Launching your own YouTube channel.

• 🌟 Getting noticed by someone important in the industry.

• 🔥 Feeling the contagious thrill of expressing yourself musically.

• 🏆 Receiving acknowledgment for your dedication and artistry.

• 🎁 Sharing the very best of yourself with loved ones—and maybe even the world.

This is not a fantasy. This is possible, and it all starts with saying yes to your voice.

Your Voice is Your Legacy

Your voice is a direct reflection of who you are. It carries the stories of those who came before you. When you sing, you echo generations of laughter, struggle, joy, and love.

That’s why I urge you to invest in yourself. It’s one of the most powerful things you can do. Make a memorable first impression—every time—by singing at your best on command.

I want to see you thrive. If you’re ready to uncover the most striking gift passed down to you from your ancestors—your voice—I would be honoured to help.

Take the First Step Today

If you’ve been waiting for a sign, this is it.

📞 Contact me today to schedule your FREE consultation session at:👉 www.voiceyourselfsinging.com/apply

Let’s explore what your voice is capable of—together.

A Simple Call to Action: Sing Today

Before this day ends, I invite you to sing something with someone you love. Whether it’s a silly tune with your child, a ballad with your partner, or an old favourite with your parents, just sing. Make their heart melt. Share your joy. Light up their day.

Because as George Santayana said:

“The family is one of nature’s masterpieces.”

Take good care of each other.Happy Family Day, from my family to yours. 💖

Val Bastien, OCT

Vocal Coach, Toronto